I recently had a conversation with the girls about whether despite being emotionally strong and powerful women, we love being super submissive in bed. Being told what to do to ourselves, how to do it and when to come. All the while being told what a good little girl we are by the man we are in bed with who makes us call him “daddy”. The praise we get for playing with ourselves and the soft kisses and after care. It turns out it’s quite a common kink. We can be Wonder Woman on the street but in reality all we want is Superman to tell us how well behaved we are in the sheets. Letting him take control and “edging” if it becomes too much. For those who don’t know what “edging” is, it’s when you stop yourself from reaching climax before starting again. It makes our man feel like something straight out of a Marvel or DC film. Our Action Hero. Protective, strong and heroic. “You’re doing such a good job of making daddy come” is quite a common thing in sex. The attentive man showering us with love and affection whilst making us feel good, biting our bottom lip, puppy dog eyes and making him feel like a hero.
This thought provoking notion got me thinking about DC & Marvel. No matter how old a man gets, no matter what CEO or Investment Banker job they have or how big their bank balance is, they will forever want to be A Superhero. The Hero is not just about the bedroom. You can make a man feel like a hero by asking him for advice, thanking him for doing such a basic task for you or just opening a jar of pickles (yes I’m disgusting, they’re amazing). A simple arm touch or a bat of the eyelashes can make him feel like he’s saved the day. I have a Masters Degree, have performed Shakespeare and written Critical Analysis on European Cinema and Social Paradigms in Media, lead presentations on Liverpool Culture in Performing Arts and written a 12,000 word Critique on Steve Coogan’s career. But do I like playing the ditz to get male attention? Hell yeah! Do I play on my lack of common sense sometimes? Damn right. Sometimes you have to so they feel like they’re an absolute King. Superman. The Hero Instinct. Being vulnerable and cute gets you a lot. Sometimes in relationships or marriages, men get taken for granted. Their hobbies get overlooked when they were once praised, their jokes get an eye roll instead of a laugh and the sex becomes mundane. They become part of the furniture. So helping a fragile and delicate young lady makes them feel appreciated again. They can’t wait to help the damsel in distress. So this Lois Lane will continue to pretend to be a bimbo whilst simultaneously unapologetically intelligent.
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